A growing number of younger Americans are distancing themselves from parents and relatives, part of a rising trend of “no contact” relationships driven by mental-health concerns, shifting social norms and a broader understanding of emotional boundaries.
Therapists, sociologists and family-studies researchers say Gen Z and younger millennials are choosing to limit or entirely cut communication with family members at higher rates than previous generations. While estrangement is not new, its visibility — and acceptance — has increased with the growth of online communities where young adults openly discuss childhood trauma, family conflict and boundary-setting.
“People in their 20s and early 30s are more willing to identify harmful patterns and step away from them,” said Dr. Elena Morris, a clinical psychologist specializing in family dynamics. “They’re not just tolerating unhealthy behavior because of shared DNA.”
The shift comes as younger Americans embrace mental-health treatment at record levels. According to data from the National Center for Health Statistics, adults under 35 are the most likely age group to seek therapy and report symptoms of anxiety and depression. Mental-health professionals say that as individuals address issues rooted in their upbringing, they increasingly conclude that limited or no contact with family members is the safest path forward.
Social media platforms have also played a significant role. On TikTok, Instagram and Reddit, millions share stories of strained relationships, parental conflict and attempts to break generational cycles. The online discussions have helped normalize decisions once considered taboo, particularly in communities where family loyalty has been traditionally emphasized.
For many, going no contact does not mean permanent separation. Some young adults maintain limited communication or establish conditions for continued engagement, such as the respect of boundaries or participation in therapy. Others, however, cite ongoing verbal abuse, homophobia, financial manipulation or unresolved trauma as reasons for severing ties indefinitely.
Critics, including some older adults and family-advocacy groups, argue the trend reflects a breakdown in traditional values and communication skills. They say disagreements that were once handled privately now escalate to complete estrangement.
But supporters of the movement contend the change signals progress in how Americans understand safety and well-being.
“People are choosing environments where they feel respected,” Morris said. “Sometimes that means redefining what family looks like.”
As the holiday season approaches — typically a time associated with family gatherings — mental-health professionals expect discussions around estrangement to intensify. Many say the trend shows no signs of slowing, especially as younger Americans continue to prioritize mental health and personal boundaries over obligation.
The long-term impact remains unclear, but researchers predict family estrangement will become a more common and openly discussed feature of American life in the years ahead.
