Just watched this video that’s been going around, and not even gonna lie — it’s one of those clips you finish and just sit there like, what did I just watch?
YN Says He Can’t Stop Messing With Transwomen Because “They Just Do Some Things Better” – powered by Durtey
It starts off like any other street interview. He gets asked what he’s giving up for the new year, and immediately he says, “One of my goals was to stop messing with transgender women.” Even when he says it, there’s this pause, like he knows it sounds crazy out loud.
Then they ask the obvious follow-up: did you accomplish the goal?
He laughs and goes, “Hell no.”
From there, the video just keeps unraveling. He starts explaining how he’s been attracted to people and later found out they were transgender. At one point he says, “Sometimes you deadass won’t know,” and talks about figuring it out later once conversations go further.
What stood out to me is how he keeps shifting responsibility. Instead of saying, “I like what I like,” he frames it like a mistake he needs to avoid. He literally says he just needs to “get better at spotting them,” because if he doesn’t, he’ll end up talking to them anyway.
Then comes the part where he completely contradicts himself. He says he’s done, then immediately walks it back. Someone off-camera jokes that he’s addicted, and he responds, “No, no, it’s over with… I think.” Even he doesn’t sound convinced.
The clip gets even more chaotic when someone tries to bring up real priorities — money, work, getting his life together. He waves it off and says, “Forget the money,” before blurting out something wild and then stopping himself with, “Whoa… stop it. Get some help.”
And that’s the moment where you realize — even he knows this isn’t coming out right.
The Bigger Problem No One in the Video Names
What really bothered me watching it wasn’t just the confusion or the jokes. It was how trans women were talked about like experiences, temptations, or habits — not people.
The entire conversation centers on bodies, attraction, and avoidance. There’s no acknowledgment that trans women are human beings with feelings, dignity, or agency. They’re treated like something to “fall into,” “get caught by,” or “quit,” instead of individuals deserving respect.
That’s not accidental. Trans women — especially Black trans women — are often hypersexualized in culture while being denied basic humanity. They’re desired in private, joked about in public, and disrespected in both spaces. The video doesn’t challenge that mindset; it reinforces it.
When he says he just needs to “spot them better,” what he’s really saying is that their existence is a problem for him to manage — not that his own perspective might need changing.
That’s how objectification works. People stop being people and start being situations.
By the end of the clip, it’s obvious this isn’t about a New Year’s resolution at all. It’s about confusion — about masculinity, attraction, and accountability — mixed with a culture that teaches men to laugh through discomfort instead of confronting it.
Watching it wasn’t funny to me. It was uncomfortable. Like seeing someone argue with themselves on camera, while an entire group of people gets reduced to a punchline in the process.
That video isn’t going viral because of the question.
It’s going viral because it shows how easily someone can talk about trans women — without ever actually seeing them.
